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"How can you be sure he/she is the one?"

Someone ask me this question, about how I know my wife is the one who is the best for me, the one God had intended, the one I can share my hope, dreams and aspiration with, for the rest of my life.

After thinking for a while, I realize I don't know. I don't know for certain that she is the one. I guess whoever is getting married cannot be 100% sure that he/she is the one. Nobody will be totally sure that after they got married, there won't be someone else who appear who might be better or rather more suitable.

I believe there is not such person as "the one", I believe God does not just give one, but quite a few. A marriage is not the end, but a beginning. There are work involve, you have to make it work. If anyone have the mindset that the reason for my lousy marriage now is because I have married the wrong person, then most certainly it will always end in divorce.

When you marry that person, he/she automatically becomes "the one". It is a process you walk through of affirming he/she is "the one", you have to constantly maintain the love, it is a choice to love, and it does take a bit of effort; but it does get easier.

If you think too much about whether he/she is the one, you will never get married.

posted by Wui-Ping @ 6:54 PM Comments: 0